Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Coulda' cried

Yesterday my husband and I were sent to look at a home that had offered my mother a bed. When we saw it I could have cried to think of my mother in a place like that. I could not imagine her there. It was awful - worse than living in a mental hospital in the sixties was for me.

The policy is that, because she is in an acute care facility where beds are needed for others, we need to take the first available bed. However, if we have good reasons to refuse a bed that comes along we have a right to do so. Yesterday we had good reason.

Susan commented on my last post about how emotionally and physically draining the process of moving your mother into a care facility can be. I'm already starting to feel that. And although I'm getting emotional support from my sisters and friends, I'm mostly alone in handling all this.

These days I'm trying to commit to as little as possible, though it's hard. When you leave too much time free, you only tend to stew about things. At times like this it's good to stay busy with things to take your mind off worrying.

I'm glad I've got Living Room and its people to focus on. This group is a comfort to me, especially the preparation of devotional material for the upcoming meeting this Friday. So often what I am personally going through and what I learn from it provides fodder and inspiration for things to share. How am I seeing God in all this? What is He revealing to me? How can we all find God when we face troubles? How can our faith help us cope?

If you pray, could you please remember my mom, Helena, and ask God for a good home for her, a place where she will be happy?


Wellness Writer said...

Dear Marja,
So sorry to hear that the place that's available for your mother is so terrible. Just wanted to let you know that I am praying that a wonderful place will open up for your mother, and that it will ease some of the burden you feel.

This is such a difficult time, and the transition is hard even when the facility is very nice.

I think it is good that you have other things to focus on because otherwise it can be overwhelming.


marja said...

Thank you, Susan, for caring. And thank you for praying. It's about the only thing we can do right now, isn't it?

Love, marja

P.J. said...


I, too, will be praying that the right place becomes available for your mom. I'll also be praying that God will give you strength and comfort during this time.

Love you. Take care of yourself.

Wellness Writer said...

Yes, it is.


marja said...

Thanks, PJ, for the prayers and good wishes. So good to have people like you and Susan thinking of me and my mom.